This information applies to parenting both neurotypical children, as well as children with Autism, Asperger's, and ADHD. Many parents I work with find themselves constantly trying to put out fires and are always chasing behavior. Without some way to be proactive, you will always find yourself dealing with behaviors. (Click here for a larger version of the psychological needs infographic) I encourage parents to examine these needs and determine which ones are high for their child in general and then work at meeting those needs proactively. I'll be talking more about meeting these needs proactively in the future, but for now I'll summarize. Proactive parenting involves meeting psychological needs before they cause a conflict or a behavior problem. It is a more subtle approach to parenting and involves a bit more thought and planning. However, it is nearly always far more effective. Which needs seem to be strongest for your children? What proactive solutions have you tried? Let me know in the comment section. Make sure to check back for future posts on proactive parenting. I'll be sharing my experiences from my time in wilderness therapy, therapeutic foster care, play therapy, and family therapy. Disclaimer: LEGO® is a registered Trademark of the LEGO Group of companies which does not sponsor, authorize or endorse this site.
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